1. Chapter 01 - Ideal Life
   1. Ideal Life
      1. Feeling Stagnant
      2. No Connection
      3. Life is short
      4. Everyday you are not radiantly alive and brimming with cheer is a day wasted.
      5. this book will help you get started in discovering your purpose with life
      6. There is a non linear relationship between the work you do and the results
      7. Story of enlightenment
         1. If you work at it now, it will take you ten years... if you double your efforts it will take 20
      8. Learn to create serendipitous moments
      9. Be moved by deep inner conviction
   2. Is this book right for you?
      1. Do you have the nagging sense that there is a great deal you have to accomplish and that, somehow, you are not living up to even a fraction of your potential
      2. Is this discomfomfor strong and growing?
      3. Are you willing to make the effort to know thyself?
      4. According to the book, these are a couple of key indicators that you are indeed a fin canditate
   3. Why Change Matters
      1. Shifts of conciousness can occur with startling rapidity
      2. Areas where Change will need to occur
         1. Individual Change
         2. Organinizational Change
            1. The old command and control hierarchies are unsuited to the present era
            2. Band aids cant cope with a severered artery
         3. Societal Value Change
            1. Better leaders will emerge only when we change what we honor
            2. Spreading ripples from a stone tossed in a pond, with ripples growing stronger instead of attenuating
   4. 1st Ripple Individual Change
      1. Be so involved with work that you love so much that time flies
         1. The idea of flow
      2. A penetrating awareness of the course you are creating
      3. A clear knowledge of your place in the scheme of this universe
         1. Vision
      4. The work you do feeds you and brings you great contentment and peace
         1. You are getting what you put out into the Universe
      5. You will face obstacles
         1. They are not designed for frustraction
            1. They are designed to bring out the best in you
            2. They help you to create a sharp edge, the ever exanding edge of the universe
            3. The Universe is in full support of your endeavors
      6. Locked doors will open mysteriously
         1. You don't need to know the how
      7. Your personal life is ultimately more fulfilling
         1. That should be your first focus along the trail
      8. If you are a parent
         1. The child or chldren will bring you great satisfaction
            1. They will chart their own path
            2. you will not be able to see their path
            3. You will be their springboard
      9. Each dan an improvement over the day before
         1. Each one more perfect than the day before
      10. You feel an infinite amount of gratitude
      11. You will recognize the Cosmic principle
          1. The merging of spirit/body/mind
             1. ultimately indescribable
             2. Numinous
      12. This type of life is your birthright
          1. there is nothing that says entitlement, this is open to everyone, young and old alike
      13. Desire
          1. Desperately
          2. Be ok with it not happening
      14. Desire Paradox
          1. The desire issue is a paradox | all paradoxes are resolved with greater understanding
      15. You cannot force
          1. Attempting to force or rush this will double time to achieve and impede progress
          2. Like nature and a vaccuum
             1. as soon as you remove any energy or substance from an area, nature will replace it with another, likely result that you are seeking with half the effort
      16. Your Ideal life does not currently exist
          1. You need to construct it (or become aware of it)
   5. 2nd Ripple Organizational Change
      1. How we connect determines our lives
      2. How to differentiate
         1. Network contactct
            1. Cultivated for connections/positions
         2. True contact
            1. Change your intention
            2. Whatever you are trying must bring spiritual & material growth
         3. This book will teach you new ways to connect with others
         4. This begins organizational change
      3. Let go of the idea you are the orchestrator of events
      4. When you have the right mixture of passion and detachment as well as acceptance of what really happens
      5. An army will show up to support you the moment that you need
         1. Reminds me of the idea of an army of angels recently referenced in an interview
      6. James Allen Quote
         1. Golden opportunities will present themselves along your path
            1. This is always happening, you simply need to be able to identify and utilize
      7. Books and other aids you require will come unsought
         1. Books will reflect your current level of understanding and often contains the keys you seek
            1. reminds me of the book with Geronomo Stilton where part of the book was to find the pictures of keys along the way
      8. This book will help you to powerfully connect in ways that are in harmony with your values
      9. Become a light that intersects with other lights creating a unified and brighter spot
   6. 3rd Ripple Societal Change
      1. Leadership is a fad
         1. Very few leaders
            1. Many in position of hierchal
            2. Many with Authority
            3. can put you in good or bad place
            4. Neither generally care if you achieve your potential
         2. Many not able to manifest the life force that wins dedicated converts to their vision
      2. True self interestes teaches selflessness
      3. Enlightened leadership is service
      4. Well being of all above the wel being of self alone
      5. Leadership is a state of being not a skill
      6. Many different styles of leadership
         1. no good to study the specific styles
         2. Reflect on their deeper qualities
         3. Methods of awareness appears to all people in all situations
            1. Jobs: you can't connect the dots going forward
      7. Because the leader sees clearly they can shed light on others
         1. Seeing divinity within themselves they can see it in others and reflect it back to them
      8. Org change behavior to motivate dmeans and is demotivating
         1. Your job is to find out what is demotivating and remove
      9. The exercises in this book will help you become an authentic leader and into an insipid imitator
         1. You need to command the souls of others as well as their bodys and you do this by workig on yourself
         2. Leadership is inclusive of your family roles
   7. Obstacles to an Ideal Life
      1. Many books / authorities tell you to be a good human so you can profit
         1. Ideally your already behave this way
         2. You treat people right because thats the right thing to do
         3. Be good not just because of profit
         4. attempting to link your values with external measures like profit cheapen and discredit your actions
      2. We are not here to merely earn a living and create value for our shareholders. We are here to enrigh the world and make it a finer place to live. We will impoverish ourselves if we fail to do so.
         1. Woodrow Wilson
      3. Current society Greed driven
         1. untested economics
         2. Untested behavior models to justify actions
         3. these would otherwise be consider rapacious
      4. COmpanies are changing for the better
         1. B Corps
         2. Humane buesiness paradigms
      5. Seed change where you are
         1. Find or create a venture/company you can align with
         2. Enjoy work more
         3. be in harmony with their values
   8. The Quest for More
      1. Myth: More makes you happier
         1. Powerful institutes driving this
         2. Economy fosters consumption
         3. Key metrics pose as benefits
            1. Per capita consumption
         4. More everything and anything
            1. Money
            2. cars
            3. houses
            4. friendship
            5. freedom
            6. leisure
            7. more of less
            8. simpliciity
            9. mimimalism
            10. renunciation
      2. Ok to want more
         1. Do not connect with happiness
      3. You do not need to struggle to find happiness
         1. do the work in this book and it will well up within you
2. Chapter 02 - It ain't real
   1. Mental Models
      1. Truth
      2. Reality
      3. The Facts
   2. Different Models
      1. Work
      2. Love
      3. Family
   3. Sample Models
      1. You are not a part of the fast track crowd and dont fit in
         1. Don't put effort in and look toward the next thing
      2. What women think men find attractive
         1. making the decision to determine whether or not they are qualified
      3. Moving to a new place
         1. Whats it like where you are now?
            1. thats what its going to be like there
   4. When presented with a new model
      1. better to ask
         1. Does this new model work better for me than the one I am currently using
      2. Try a new model out for a while
         1. if it isn't a fit
            1. drop it
            2. find a new one
            3. use only what works for you
   5. Exercise: My Mental Models
      1. write out your mental models in different areas
      2. Some of these exercises will blow your mind.
         1. stop reading and relish the moments for a bit... stick to those new thoughts/revelations
      3. If you are not willing to do these exercises, put the book down
   6. It's not real
      1. You can't unlearn an idea that has taken root
      2. Erveryone perceives the world differently
         1. Bedrock of effective negotiation
         2. Universal Truth
      3. Foundations of worldview change when we look inwards
         1. we recognize everyone has different views
            1. We realize we can change our own models
      4. Our world view isn't new
         1. we made it out of mental models then we live within their constraints
         2. Our models are made out of our perceptions
   7. Its merely a construct
      1. You have dozens of models you have stiched together to create the fabric of your reality
         1. each model like a polygonal facet of a geodisc home
            1. if one of those facets isn't real, maybe none of them are
            2. Therefore your life is not real and never has been
      2. You made it
      3. You live in it
      4. The life you are living is A Reality
         1. Your mistake is thinking it is THE reality
      5. Equal parts real & unreal
   8. Escape is possible
      1. If your life is A reality, perhaps you can shift it
      2. If it is THE reality you are stuck
      3. He illustrates this with a story
   9. An Alternate Reality
      1. What is your most important asset?
         1. Perhaps it is your ability to be happy
         2. to be fulfilled
         3. to be joyous
         4. Would you give this asset to a boss?
            1. its a poor idea to give away your happiness
            2. when you are annoyed does this poison your attitude?
            3. You are giving your most valuable asset over to another
         5. How can you avoid give power over your happiness to someone else?
            1. when you ask youself this question and truly wish to find the answer you will have a powerful breakthrough
            2. You will slip into a parellel universe that has always been available to you but you never looked for it
            3. Anthony de Mello Quote
            4. The spiritual quest is a journey without distance. You travel from where you are right now to where you have always been. From ignorance to recognition...
      2. The Exercise: Alternate Reality
      3. Helpful Hints
         1. nice story that essentially outlines what happens when you accept blam for others attitudes
   10. Closing quote
       1. Your live is hemmed in by the things you know to be true but aren't. Its time to start setting yourself free.
3. Chapter 03 It's Mental Chatter & its Real
   1. Intro
      1. Come to terms that the world you live in is not real
      2. You Created your REality
         1. What you mentailly create shows up in reality whether you intentionally created it or not
            1. most likely unconsciously
            2. ignorance does not spare you
   2. Your Constant Companion
      1. It is your mental chatter
      2. Ongoing Monologue
      3. stream of consciousness
         1. bubbling brook
         2. white water rafting
      4. the wonder
         1. Isnt that you feel stressed and over whelmed
         2. it is that you are functional at all
   3. Sue Your Surgeon
      1. Imagine you received a new piece of tech that acted like your mind
         1. your mind as a computer
         2. would you return it?
         3. would you look for a manual?
   4. Little Droppings - Your VOJ
      1. Out of the Stanford Bus course
         1. Michael Ray - Professor of Creativity
            1. Creativity in Business Book
            2. Required reading for the CPM
      2. Types of VOJ
         1. Outright
            1. you're such a dummy
            2. howd you get this job?
         2. Subtle
            1. He is so smooth, not tongue tied in meetings like you
            2. thats the kind of guy that gets a promo not a schmuck like you
         3. Insiduous
         4. Gracious
            1. look at the charming couple they must have a great marriage (rare!)
         5. Judging others
            1. others are not free from VOJ
            2. reminds me of the 19 right 1 wrong teacher at school
      3. Always on
      4. Keeps you trapped
      5. Like Coral
         1. tiny
         2. build up over time
      6. Mental diet
         1. absorbed un observed without permission
   5. It's a Hijacking
      1. Like Pop ups
      2. Like Ads on an android app
      3. Database continuously updating
      4. You were NOT born this way
         1. Picked up along the way
         2. Socialized Behaviour
         3. Cultural conditioning
         4. Purchases to show status (not even wanting the thing?)
         5. May have to comply behaviourly
            1. Never have to give up your equanimity
         6. You are the doctor and the patient
   6. Exercise: Whats My Mental Chatter Like?
      1. Essentially note your mental chatter
   7. What you get from the practice
      1. You will notice what you are building your life on
   8. Helpful Hints
      1. do it without judging
      2. Disspassionately
      3. Over time less hijacking
         1. Like shoplifting
            1. putting up the sign alone reduces the actual shoplifting
4. Chapter 04 You Cant Kill It And It Won't Shut Up
   1. Your Reality is Between Your ears
      1. Mental models accepted without questioning
         1. they create your reality
         2. or at least your perception of it
         3. Illustrated with a story
            1. It doesnt matter whether true or not
            2. what matters is the action you take based upon what you believe you know
            3. Where do you see this in your life?
      2. you manufacture emotion to external stimuli
         1. this is not news to you
         2. You do this when watching a movie
            1. The reality you create is not much different than a movie
            2. Since you believe in your reality
            3. You allow for the emotions to dictate your reactions
            4. You do not recognize your ability to hold your emotions in check like when watching a movie
   2. Does your reality work for you?
      1. Reflect on your ideal reality
         1. If you did the exercise
         2. Have you created it?
         3. If so Great you're done here
      2. If you are like the rest of us
         1. You are massively dissatissified with the reality you have created between your ears
            1. You are concerned with what others think of you
            2. you think of ways to win them over
            3. You are attempting to climb the corporate ladder
            4. each rung up brings momentary joy and quick to plataue
            5. Your frantic actions to hold onto what you have
            6. while attempting to get more
            7. often lead to dropping balls
            8. At some point
            9. You realize there is a song within you
            10. And you don't know how to get it out
   3. By Golly! I'll stop that mental chatter!
      1. Logic says
         1. Just stop the mental chatter
      2. You may try
      3. You will find that you can not
      4. What will happen when you attempt to put an end to it?
         1. What happens when you give something energy?
            1. remember the gremlins?
            2. dont feed those fuckers after midnight
         2. Imagine a wild horse
            1. Running in field
            2. standing still peacefully
            3. What happens when you try to mount?
            4. Bucks and throws you off
            5. True story about wild horses
   4. An Incredibly Fertile plot of land
      1. Mental chatter is not the enemy
         1. It only seems like it because you have let it
         2. You have not been aware of it
      2. Imagine a plot of land
         1. with plenty of fertile ground
         2. what happens when you walk away from it for six months or so?
            1. Crazy overgrowth and no way that you will be able to see the bare ground that you have left behind
            2. Imagine what would happen if left untended for years
      3. Your mind will grow and nurture
         1. this CAN NOT be prevented
         2. it absolutely WILL produce
            1. You may influence the garden
            2. Weeding
            3. rowing
            4. eventually an over abundance so that you are able to share with others
      4. You have been away from your garden for years
         1. Don't be suprised its a mess
         2. be grateful that there are useful plants (thoughts ideas anything good at all)
         3. Set about to tending to that shit
   5. Awareness, The Only Tool you will ever need
      1. Weeds will wither
         1. once exposed to the light of awareness
      2. You will recognize the distracting, unsupportive thoughts
         1. recognition of these thoughts will automatically diminish
   6. The Witness: The Best Friend You Will Ever Have
      1. Will assist you with your awareness
      2. Watching your thoughts dispasionately has a name
         1. The watcher
            1. Watcher is Universal
            2. Can be seen in NLP
            3. Merely observes
            4. is dispassionate
            5. Once you begin to leverage watcher
            6. You will feel like you are on two tracks
            7. initially only able to hold the watcher a few seconds
            8. it is natural for the mind to resist the light
         2. If you have sincerely begun to watch your own thoughts dispassionately you will likely have already seen diminish
      3. The friend you ought to care for and nurture more than most
   7. Exercise Present Moment Awareness
      1. pick one day to do everything deliberately and unhurriedly
         1. no watching a show while typing out your outline
         2. scrolling through your phone while in a meeting or conversation
         3. not slowly
      2. firm and deliberate
      3. one step at a time
      4. methodical
      5. let go of of mental models of how it should be
         1. let go of your idea of what the results should be
      6. really listen to others
      7. remove yourself from the picture
      8. being able to be 100% present to all things not expected
         1. however if you do try
         2. You will get far more done
         3. with much less stress
         4. Once you sample the results you will want to do exercise more often
   8. Exercise Eating Mindfully
      1. Companion not replacement to first exercise
      2. for 7 days eat one meal in compltes silence
         1. Pay close attention to act of eating
         2. Chew slowly thoughtfully
         3. all the details
            1. saliva
            2. teeth cutting through food
            3. suble flavors
            4. bring the attention to your drinks as well
            5. hunger pangs
            6. when do they get sated
         4. Can do with others so long as complete silence
         5. chew each mouthful 30 times
            1. Primarily if you have food issues
   9. Common Reactions and Helpful Hints
      1. nearly everyone will find it impossible to be mindful 100% of the time
         1. dont berate yourself if you lose the witness
            1. Totally normal
            2. if you can summon a couple dozen times a day you are doing well
            3. You will immediately notice you are less carried away
            4. if you retain the witness in throes of emotion even better
      2. If massive resistance to the eating mindfully
         1. use gentle force to try no more
         2. overtime resistance will go away
      3. People notice they are full long before their plate is empty
      4. Sustained weight loss occurs frequently
      5. Trying to be mindful at all times is challenging
         1. common to feel over whelmed
         2. If you begin to feel overwhelmed simplify
         3. pick a couple of slots no longer than 10 - 15 mins duration
         4. as you become more comfortable expand on the time
   10. Your mind is precious: Protect it!
       1. As your practice grows, you witness will grow stronger
          1. imagine you live in an unsavory area
             1. people come to your door
             2. you smell alchohol and marijuana
             3. you slam the door shut
             4. you guard the door with your life
             5. You need to protect your mind with the same intensity
             6. Cancer story
       2. YOu have to be minful of what you let in
          1. what types of media do you consume?
             1. violence
             2. deragatory
             3. what type of emotional space do they leave you in?
             4. what do these programs tell you about how the world really is
             5. Relaxed, at peace, and full of joy and wonder?
             6. or hyped up, strung out, breathing fast and filled with tension?
             7. Is your forehead furrowed or smooth?
             8. Are your muscles tight or relaxed?
             9. the news
       3. It is better to allow yourself to be cut with a sharp knife than to let a wrong thought in your mind. Swami Sivananda
       4. Witness will hold up a mirror and show you what you are really doing
          1. that knowledge will producd change on its own
          2. you have built up a lot of momentum
          3. it is going to take time to make it through
          4. when you recognize your witness is missing, go out to find it.
          5. done persistently change will happen
5. Chapter 05 You Can Change the Universe
   1. Intro
      1. Spiritual Mother
         1. I resonate with this
         2. Taught that the benelont universe would always permit one to surface even when swallowed by tidal waves
         3. Resisted mothers wisdom
            1. also resonate with this
      2. Watermelon Cherry Story
         1. Makes jokes to mother to refute wisdom
      3. If a boulder should fall, faith will turn it to dust
   2. Proof Cuts Both Ways
      1. You can choose to be witness to the wins
      2. You can be witness to the ruin
      3. It is your choice
         1. Dr Rao makes this note
            1. You don't need to have a revelation to make this change, you can do it now.
   3. The Law of Increase
      1. Most have the mental model of you get what you get and you don't give a fit, acting as though the universe and you are two separate entities
      2. The Universe is a conscious entity
         1. You are intertwined with the universe
            1. it wants to give you what you desire, and you CAN influence it
      3. Whatever you are truly grateful for and appreciate will increase in your life
         1. Not even trying to convince you, simply apply this and you will see it for yourself
      4. Tells the two dogs story (which one will win/the one that you feed)
      5. You will do what needs to be done to fix or contain the b ad, but you will NOT expend emotional or psychic energy on it
   4. Appreciation and Gratitutde #1
      1. LAST thing you do at night
         1. write out things you are grateful for in the day
         2. 5 -1o mins
         3. do for at least a week
      2. pay special attention to morning mental chatter
   5. Appreciation and Gratitude #2
      1. include moments of gratitude within the day
         1. do with heart
         2. do with body
         3. Noitce tenor throughout the day
   6. Helpful Hints
      1. if challenged to wish others well, realize you are actually wishing yourself well
   7. You Can influence the universe and create miracles
      1. SNUCK THIS IN!
      2. so throughoughly convinced that you are separate from the universe
      3. spend most of life pointing to your powerlessness
      4. only need to have the firm conviction that the universe has intervened for you on your behalf
         1. example of the parking spot you conjure, but consider coincidence
         2. example of learning to play tennis until it all clicks
         3. understand which of these models will serve you best
            1. First one will not serve you well
            2. second one is transformative, powerful and capable of delivering results
   8. How to Create Miracles in your life
      1. when you think of a friend
      2. when you think of a phrase
      3. example my house
      4. example $$$
      5. Example minor events (don't want a meeting to happen and it cancels)
      6. write them down - date & time, permit yourself to feel elated and write down the corresponding feeling
      7. mentally play with the idea that these are not coincidences
      8. Note it as the universe trying to make itself known to you
      9. Assist it by showing it some attention
      10. create miracles with the expectation that they will happen @ least 50x a day
      11. There will be some flubs and some wins - focus on the wins
      12. initially you will change your way of thinking
      13. overtime you may begin to accept that the universe DOES work in this manner
          1. at this time the number of events increases
             1. this is the signal to start to make bigger and more imporatnt things happen
             2. at some point it becomes common place and simply a way of life
      14. Subtopic 14
   9. Helpful Hints
      1. Do not share this process with others
         1. they will share their skeptisims and bring you down
      2. do it silently and allow for your own faith to develop
      3. for some it may take longer than others
         1. stick with it
      4. you CAN produce miracles
      5. you can engineer coinciendces
      6. He shares a story
      7. I will share some of my own
   10. To change your Universe, Discard the model of Frantic Doing
       1. current model of life for most
       2. Harder I work luckier I get
       3. relationship efforts
       4. Job efforts
       5. end up feeling like you are on a hamster wheel
       6. feel that this is the "reality" of life
       7. It ISN'T! YOu can get off of the wheel
   11. When you change so does the universe
       1. Alternate = Calm Being
          1. Bob Proctor.. don't need to slow down, need to calm down
       2. each time you change a mental model
          1. you become a different person
             1. the univers has no choice but to change in accordance with the person you have become
       3. Many cases more efficient to do internal work
          1. still need to do extenral stuff
             1. just much less than you thought
       4. example of searchign for a job
          1. when you become clear the univers shows itsellf to you with ease
       5. practice over time
       6. largest stubmlin block is that you are not able
       7. use both in tandem
       8. beliefs so deep that they will be an interference on reception to and from universe
       9. keep track of successes, ignore failiurses
          1. ideally keep doing what works
   12. A Note Of Caution
       1. once you head down this direction you cant go back
          1. you can't unknow this
             1. a little bit like the red pill blue pill
       2. you will be teamed up with the universe
       3. you may think this a shennigan, what do you have to lose?
       4. keep with it... you will find yourself in a whole new world
       5. you will need to supply your own persistence
6. Chapter 06 - Your "Me-Centered' Universe Creates the Stress in Your Life
   1. You live in a me centered universe
      1. Direct attack!
         1. No matter what happens to another you worry about how it will impact you
         2. This is inclusive of "altruistic" measures
            1. I have been guilty of this - soccer coaching
            2. Toastmasters
      2. Exercise me me me - o
         1. Simply record a call and listen to how often you say me/I/my
      3. Stress in your life
         1. Things are always going on and you will always react to them
         2. When you react to the events
            1. you are not doing so so much to the event itself
            2. you are doing it more so to the potential future outcome
            3. Often times, it seems like the universe is against you
            4. This is tough to accept
            5. seems to compound and cause more stress
            6. all of this stress is a result of a fixed notion on how the universe SHOULD act
            7. so you take it personally
            8. Think of how often you have said
            9. FML
            10. God hates me
            11. you felt like it was you against the world
            12. We have expectaions for evertyhing
            13. often times these expectations are not communicated
            14. you expend a shit ton of energy trying to get others to conform to your expectations
            15. when you feel like you aren't being heard
            16. you turn up the volume
            17. you expend more energy
            18. results do not change
            19. if it rains on vaca
            20. you mniss the bus
            21. your bonus isn't what you expected
            22. you feel like the universe is being a jackass towards you
            23. then you punish yourself
            24. you become uptight/anxious/irritable and depressed
            25. then you take it out on those close by
            26. not spending time with them
            27. being emotionally withdrawn
            28. generally unhappy
            29. Similar to hiring podcast coach
            30. Srikumar calls this a toxic cocktail
            31. which we drink sometimes nearly every day!
            32. It doesn't have to be this way!
         3. I'm Going to Give Up expectations
            1. This is not possible
            2. Everything has an expecation
            3. you go to fry an egg you expect it to fry
            4. the problem isn't with expectations
            5. the problem is your reaction to the outcomes
            6. You have limited enough control over yourself
            7. Literally no control over the outcomes
            8. what are some examples in your life?
            9. You so something with the desired outcome of A
            10. more often than not you get B,C,D,E or even F
            11. How to prevent the toxic feelings?
            12. Accept whatever outcome occurse
            13. better if you can do it cheerfully
            14. better yet if you can embrace it
            15. This does not mean that you compromise your values!
            16. have you done a values exercise?
      4. Good thing, bad thing, who knows
         1. When you view the outcome, you assign a label... good or bad
            1. Sufi tale
         2. Take stock of our current life
            1. what do you have that is good or bad?
            2. How can you be certain?
            3. Is it possible that you just don't know?
      5. Exercise Good thing Bad Thing
         1. Look back through your life
         2. look at what you once deemed a bad thing
            1. did it perhaps become lemonade?
         3. Leave the super painful shit alone
      6. Surrender to the Universe
         1. Again take a look back
            1. COVID
            2. Jobs
         2. Stress in your life caused by your reactions to not getting what you want
         3. you can elimnate all of this by surrendering to the universe
            1. Hailed as one of the most powerful pieces in the book
            2. I had to read two other books before even catching it in this one by the 4th time
            3. Hawkins Surrender
            4. Michael Singer Surrender Experiment
         4. Eliminates 90% of stress
         5. You have been lead to believe that surrender is weak!
            1. You are not playing dead
            2. you're still setting your agenda for what you want to have happen
            3. you are giving up the predetermined expectations
         6. The process of surrender has four steps
            1. Take all actions with a clear understanding of what you would like to have happen
            2. Consciously wish for benefit to all who are involved
            3. recognize your actions are only one possible way to achieve the outcomes
            4. you have a limited understanding of all forces at play
            5. Detach yourself from the outcome
            6. Accept whatever comes
            7. Cheerfully if possible
            8. if you actually welcome the results whole heartely then your perpsective on them will be transformed
            9. Detaching yourself from the outcome is a skill like riding a bike
            10. Primary reason you haven't done it up until now was because you didn't think it was possible.
            11. this may be the first time you have considered the possiblity
            12. you believe that the outcome dictates your reaction
            13. you don't get something- you are sad
            14. Subtopic 1
            15. you get something and you are happy
            16. you also believe that the older you get, the less things go your way
            17. NO
            18. Actions are within your control
            19. outcomes are not
            20. reactions are within your control if you seize control
            21. this will take practice!