Only one third of my time was spent sleeping at home, a third at my partners & a third elsewhere and I spent on average 2.77 hours per day travelling (I had no idea how transient my life was).
The average amount of sleep I had was 7.3 hours, with a third being less than 6 hours.
I spent on average 1.43 hours per day on email
I was happy about 2/3 of my life but was stressed nearly 1/3 of my life and tired for at least half of the time.
Some nice observations however were that for more than 2/3 of my time, I spent some quality time with lovers, friends and family and half my time enjoyed sexual intimacy.
Personal Common Triggers
Changing a lot
Frustration over expenses
Not proper breaks
Manage intense amounts of information
Lack of positive feedback/feeling unsupported
Liberals/radicals > different worldviews
Fear of suicide
Anger/injustice/feeling of helplessness
Frustration with speed of solicitors
Traveling to visits
Booking process / being on hold /inconsistency
Cost / fear of letting her down
K & C leaving
Missing friends in prison
Not always feeling relaxed at home
Workplace ecology that contributes to stress
From Exercise in The Relaxation & Stress Reduction Workbook
Values at odd with trustees
Struggle to find coop members with same values/politics
Workload size interferes with how well I do it
Too much to do in too little time
Job interferes with personal life
Lack privacy I need to concentrate
Too much contact with people/disruptions
Impact of PMT on my life
Very little in place to protect myself
Care for others/emotional support
Timetable hugely variable
Only 1 third of time at home
My overcommitting demands processing huge amounts of information and threatens my ability to manage my time and promises or creatively focus on tasks.
When at home and had a more boundaried/stronger patterned day, my self care practices were better e.g. Stretching, nourishing infusions, regular breaks, meals etc.
Time on land
MSc Self Study
True rest with friends
When & how I am contactable
Time & energy given to projects
Financial input into projects/use of expenses
Protection of time for rest/study/Nicole time
Computer/tech free times
Herbalism & Optimum Nutrition
See herbalist pathway design
Stress Management Techniques
Change the external stressor
Change your thoughts
Quality of work
Quality of relationships
Quality of outcomes
My personal indicators
Waking up super early to get things done
More colds/pain in back
Not taking calls or texting people back
Resenting people I work with/Blaming others/Negativity
Hyperactivism - phenomenen of doing without achieving
Workaholism is an addictive behaviour in which you work excessive hours largely as a means of avoiding having to deal with stresses or problems in your life, and especially your personal life
Transitions are wasteful
Managing unwielding amounts of information and people is exhausting
Work from a plan or schedule
Feel good feelings
Only take on what is reasonable
Feel good at & outside of work
Set limits & meet other life needs
Work gives pleasure
Avoiding burnout is not just individual responsibility
Movement & cultural issue
High Level Wellness
Extreme Self Care
Rhythm & Routine
Master art of letting go & recieving help
First aid kit
Discover hidden passions
Use your voice
Soul loving space
Protect own sensitivity
Recognise own deprivation
What do I need more of?
What am I yearning for?
Where do I feel deprived?
Feeling compartmentalised between Bristol & Somerset - social & political needs met in Bristol.
Having very high standards/putting pressure on myself
Having very diverse interests & feeling very passionate about a lot of things
Fear of failure
Feeling of invincibility/innate ability to cope with huge demands
Avoid dealing with emotional stress - supporting Sam, grief around SHAC/not seeing co-defendents, friends leaving, oppression & witnessing of injustice
Fear of wasting time
Fear of prison
Fear of 'not doing enough'
Inability to delegate due to trust issues & fear of failure
Neglecting self care needs
Not prioritising self care practices in context of busy life
Having limited boundaries
Lacking patterns to be able to commit to routines such as exercise classes
Not being in a comfortable location where I feel I can stretch/exercise, travelling early in the morning
Fear of scarcity
Feeling of 'can't turn work down'
Don’t want to spend money on nourishing meals, would rather go without/eat more cheaply
I’m invincible, can cope, am very resilient, have lived like this for a long time I can do it etc.
Multiple passions / seeing how everything is connected
Different groups meet different personal needs in me
Enjoy challenging/testing myself
Unable to 'let go' of certain projects
Want to be seen as authentic / in it for the long haul
Technical skill sets
Don't want to burden others if I leave
Committing to Monday - Wednesday at home. Only Somerset commitments, no trips to Bristol, no prison visits.
Aim to be in Somerset at least Mon - Fri every week, only negotiable change is for prison visits, which can be on a Thursday or for holidays & important events.
Absolute minimum of one evening off with no computer per week.
One lie in minimum per week.
Minimum one daytime off per week where I’m doing a joyful/nourishing activity.
Minimum one hour per day on a land-based task or connective activity e.g. Medicine making, weeding, walking.
Minimum one European trip per year to get out of Somerset bubble & learn from other cultures.
Minimum three nourishing mini-breaks per year, with solid time away from the computer & re-connection with myself and the land.
Sleep at least 7.5 hours per night. 8 is preferred.
Self care is political act
Through effective self care I will be more effective, get more done, have better ideas, be a nicer person, and enjoy life more!
Through self care I am resisting patriarchical and oppressive ways of interacting. I refuse to exploit, abuse or neglect myself, just like I actively commit to eradicating all dorms of domination in all other areas of life.
Next Steps (see OP page)
Ongoing Design Work
Conscious Action Management / Life Admin / Getting things Done system
Spiritual Development Pathway
Ongoing self care design e.g. tracking, re-design
PMT Support Design
Integrate self-care into Ical
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